So, this title almost made us gag, and took us back to our middle school years when we wrote in our diaries asking whether Cody and Billy liked us back.
C’mon, we know that wasn’t just us.
But, the topic of boys liking us is one that is one the mind of every female: starting at age six, up until around ninety-six. It never stops.
So, via our favorite gurus: the fabulous ladies at Cosmopolitan magazine, we have produced the College Edition of How to Know if a Guy Likes You. Especially in a college setting there are a lot of parameters that make the dating world fifty shades of gray.
To start out…
1. He calls you to see how your day has been
Cosmo prefaces this blurb with a bolded statement of “texts don’t count.” And, as much as we love texting, they are totally right. It is so easy to text a guy you like all day, it is a mindless activity. But, if a guy truly is into you he will break through the awkwardness of calling to see how you have been.
This might actually be the most important step. In today’s college landscape the “booty call” has become the 2 a.m. “booty text.” If he is actually calling you, just to talk, then he is interested in you for more than just the booty.
2. He suggests staying at your place
According to Cosmo, “Guys tend to make life as easy as possible for themselves, which is why they tend to prefer you to sleep over.” Also, a guy who is just trying to have sex with you isn’t worried about your awkward walk-of-shame home, or what happens the next morning. If a guy is legitimately interested in you, he will make the extra long walk to your place, and deal with your nosy friends in the morning.
3. He skips guy time to hang out with you
For most guys, guy time is the sacred time. In college, 90% of bros are more likely to pick hanging out with their frat than hanging out with you. That’s the honest truth. It has nothing to do with who you are as a person, guys just like the convenience of hanging out with people they are already close too. It takes effort to get closer to you, conversely it’s easy to be close to the guys (they don’t even have to talk!). If he likes you, he will be more apt to make that effort.
4. He doesn’t mind you leaving your clothes at his place
This is another big one, for multiple reasons. According to Cosmo, this is a sign because he is beginning to view your stuff as his stuff. Guys are very protective over their space, and can easily feel uncomfortable or congested with extra stuff in their space. If he let’s you stash a sweatshirt or yoga pants in his mass of dirty clothes for your next sleepover together, it is likely too that he is only sleeping with you. No guy who is having sex with multiple girls would let them store their store in his room (even guys aren’t that dumb!).
5. He says he misses you
Most guys don’t say this unless they mean it. Guys are typically independent, so if they are willing to admit to a dependence on another person’s presence, it is a big deal. However, if the guy you are hooking up with texts you “I miss you” at 3 a.m. I would disregard this entire point, he most likely just wants to hook up.
6. He has sex with you…sober
Though this is not the cutest number on the list, it is probably the most accurate depiction of the seriousness of a relationship. Anyone can have sex with the comfort of a few shots of Jack Daniels, or case of Natty. Sober sex is immediately more intimate because there is no forced physical and emotional connection.
7. He grabs your hand first
But not just your hand. If a guy is willing to show PDA with you in front of his friends, or in public, it is pretty clear that he sees you as more than just a girl to take home that night. According to Cosmo, this is an important step because he’s showing he’s proud to be the one holding your hand, or hugging, or kissing you. Doing it in front of his friends, too, will show that he is willing to admit that you have a relationship, instead of “keeping it on the DL.”
8. He makes an effort
This one is pretty obvious. If he’s making an effort, whether it’s planning what you are doing that night, or offering to help you out in some way, he wants more than sex from you. Someone who isn’t interested in more than a hook-up will not go out of their way to plan out your meet-up or go out of his way for anything.
9. He wants to talk about your relationship
Not even necessarily “that talk,” if he is willing to discuss anything emotional pertaining to what you guys are doing together he clearly cares. Emotions and guys typically do not go well together, so opening up to you in anyway is a good sign.
Our best advice when trying to figure out if the guy you are hooking up with likes you, watch out for a few of these signs. Even if you aren’t expecting any more from your FWB relationship, if your guy starts portraying these signs, there might be a chance he’s looking for more.
Good luck girls!